One of the most important things in life is to learn how to love yourself, appreciate what you’ve done so far and to treat yourself, regardless of your past or what you could have done to make you feel sad in the present. Accepting yourself as a human being, that makes mistakes and it is flawed (like everyone else) is an important step toward being a truly healthy individual. Remember, from time to time we all make mistakes, even though we believed that we were actually doing the right thing.
Yes, we all do stupid things – we say something we should not have and then regret it. At times, we don’t say what we should have said! We forget important details or dates which ends up hurting someone we live. But, accepting that situations like these happen is very important for your emotional health in the long run, because believe it or not – your body reacts to every single one of these events and coping with it can be quite hard, even though it does not look like that.
Sometimes, it is a good idea to take a look at your life – is it possible that you are still feeling guilty about mistakes that you have done in the past? Or is it possible that you are still mad at someone who did you wrong in the past? The problem can arise when you have some unresolved issues with the past – it can hang over you and make you feel miserable. Don’t get us wrong – being regretful of some issues in the past is normal, it is a part of life, but the interesting thing is that experts say we should feel grateful for the mistakes we’ve made in the past.
When you look back at some of the hardest times in your life – times when you hurt someone, when you failed at something or when you ended up doing something completely stupid. Times when you should have kept your mouth shut or times when you have said something, but you didn’t. All these situations are something that you should regret about, but at the same time there is a lot of things you can learn from them.
However, we don’t have the possibility to do anything of that over again and we are not able to control everything, but we do have control over ourselves and we are able to attach certain meaning to any event from our past. If there is anything in your past that you are not proud of (and it is still haunting you), try to find some lightness in it – something good that came out of it. Try to figure out what you have learned from it and how your life was better, even though the situation itself was not so good.
The meaning that we give to the mistakes and errors from our past is what helps us get over those situations and keep in mind that it is just as important to forgive and forget!